Love Story: Zoilamys and Adalbert

  I felt like our souls were connecting!!! Nothing else mattered but us.

Zoilamys & Adalbert

We've been married for 4 years, but we've been together 5 years total. Our wedding anniversary is on his birthday which is April 4. We got married April 4, 2008. I picked this date for three reasons: one, so he can never forget our wedding anniversary (help the man out a little), two, so even on his birthday he still has to get me a gift, and three, if we ever get divorced, he will have the most miserable birthday ever!

First Impression

I first met him at Home Depot where we both worked in 2004. I was a cashier and he was a manager. He was very rude to me when I asked him about a position in his department that I wanted to apply for. He brushed me off and simply said "Yeah, Yeah just apply". I walked away and thought what an asshole. He can take that job and shove it. After that encounter, there's no way I could have imagined that he was to be the man that I would marry.  

 

First Date

 Mid 2006, a mutual friend tried to hook us up, but it failed miserably. When I was available, Adalbert was taken and vice versa. Finally in November of 2006, we were both single. I met him at Flanagan's in the Grove. We spent hours together having fun with our friends and even hung out later that night when all of our friends left. He took me to Fat Tuesday's and bought me a drink, even though I wasn't 21.  I remember sitting on the bench  in front of Gap talking to him and feeling mesmerized every time he opened his mouth. There was a devil on one shoulder telling me not to believe what he was saying and an angel on the other telling me how charming and interesting he was.  All I wanted to do was listen to him. I had heard people talking about love at first sight, and here I was experiencing it. I thought the notion was pathetic, but there I was caught up in the midst of it. I  had butterflies in my stomach, my hands were sweating, and I couldn't stop blushing. I couldn't believe that the guy that was such a jerk to me years ago was making me feel this way. I was really trying to ignore both these figures because I wanted to just hear him. I felt so stupid because all my life I heard people talking about love at first sight and I thought it was so fucking pathetic and here I am listening to this guys that I had cursed out in my mind years back and felling butterflies in my stomach, my hands where sweating, I blushed from time to time. To top it off, I kept staring at his fluffy lips and thinking about what I wanted to do to them. Every girl fantasizes right? At the end of the night, I gave him a passionate kiss. I ended up biting his lip and was so embarrassed when he yelled out "ouch" Thankfully, he just smiled at me. After that date, we continued to talk on the phone for weeks. 

Oh no he didn't...
He was supposed to be my date on New Year's in 2006, but he stood me up. Can you believe that? He didn't even call or anything. I began to feel silly for liking someone so much, so fast. He even had the nerve to have our mutual friend call and tell me that he wasn't going to make it instead of calling me himself. I was fuming that he wasn't even man enough to tell me himself. Then in the days and weeks following, he called me nonstop. He left me apologetic messages trying to explained what happened. At first, I refused to hear him out. Finally after some convincing from our friend, I decided to see him and let him explain what happened. In the end, I told him that we were going to be friends for a while and that he had to gain my trust and respect back. He agreed and we have been fine ever since.

On our 5 day cruise the day before he proposed to me

This was waiting for me in our cabin the night he proposed to me. Feb 14, 2008

Proposal
In 2008, on Valentine's weekend, he surprised me with a 5 day Cruise to Mexico and Grand Cayman. He proposed to me at a French restaurant on board. He was sweating and really nervous, but never in my mind did I think he was going to propose. I ordered a Creme Brulee. Little did I know, he had the waitress put the engagement ring in my dessert. I almost ended up swallowing my own engagement ring. He then got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. It was a very emotional moment, but I didn't cry. He jokingly told me that I have a heart of stone.

Marriage

We got married two months later on his birthday at the Coral Gables Court House. We didn't have a grand reception; we had a family dinner at the Rusty Pelican. It was simple, yet amazing.

Pregnancy

 Three months after we married ,we got pregnant, and I suffered a miscarriage at 9 weeks. It was one of the most difficult times in my life. I struggled to get past that. At some point, I thought it was a message from God saying that I wasn't able to have children. Fortunately, months later, I became pregnant with my daughter, Chloe. Soon after she was born, I became pregnant with my son, Caden. The doctor told me that if I breastfed I wouldn't get pregnant immediately, but there I was pregnant with my second child so quickly. It's not fun being pregnant and having to take care of a new born . It didn't help much that my husband could sleep through anything. Our daughters crib was on his side of the bed, and no matter how loudly she cried, he was able to sleep through it. I remember one night I decided to get revenge. I held his nose and he woke up freaking out because he dreamed he was drowning. LOL! I felt a huge amount of satisfaction at that moment. My son, Caden, is my miracle baby. At about 5 months into the pregnancy, I was hospitalized. I was dilated 2 centimeters and having major contractions. With the help of doctors, God, my family, and my husband, I was able to remain strong. I carried him up until I was 35 weeks. I was strengthened greatly by that situation  because it taught me that I can do anything with the right support and if I put my mind to it.

Children 

June 11, 2009, the day my daughter,Chloe Alexandria, was born in Mount Sanai  Hospital. At 7:45 pm, weighing 6 lbs 7 oz, length 18 in

May 5, 2010, the day my son, Caden Alexander Martinez, was born at Jackson Memorial Hospital. At 11.30 pm weighing 6lbs 1oz. length 18 in

What sets him apart from other guys?

He is not a cocky guy, but he has an amazing sense of confidence that is very powerful. He is an amazing father, son, brother, husband, and friend. He has the biggest heart that a person could have. He is educated, sexy, loyal, and outgoing. When times got tough for us financially when I was pregnant with my daughter, he stepped up and told me not to worry. I put my trust in him and his plans and he saw us through. He completes me, makes me better, and pushes me when I want to give up. I am madly, deeply in love with him.

 The Martinez's 2011 Holiday!

Making It Last

Though our relationship is doing well now, we've had some rocky times. During our first year together, we had to deal with drama from previous relationships. The situation was very delicate because it involved his other children as well. We had to learn to put that aside and focus on each other.I'm glad that we both stuck it out and made it work. 

Any advice to new couples that are just starting their relationship?

The number one thing in a relationship is honesty. Lay everything out of the table: the past, present, and future. Be honest with  yourself and the other person. Make sure you both want the same things in life. Communicate, if you don't say what you want or what you feel, how is that other person suppose to react or understand you? Finally, respect each other. Respect is fundamental in a relationship.If  you are just starting and you see no progress by the 6 month mark, then move the fuck on.